Posts from the ‘Life’ Category

Do you want Peace

Have you ever wondered why this is going on in your life? Do you ask the question “why me”?

When the question of why me comes up I right away think of my uncle Bret and his response to that rhetorical question, “why not you”. Some things in life like accidents or diseases will leave you thinking why me. For me in the summer of my life I am working to find meaning to my life. That question leaves me asking the question of “what is my lesson in this”?

Most times the answer to that question take much chewing before the answer is reveled to me. It’s amazing how most things want what you feel you have the least of, time. See when I was young time did not exist in my reality, ok when the street lights came one but that was still different. Time is in the mind just like thoughts of right and wrong. There is a field where right and wrong do not exist, will you meet me there? Rumi

Illustration by Shannon Logan

These questions of why me leave you as the victim of your life, while what’s the lesson gets you searching. The rule of life is simple if you search you will find. Similar in sales if you keep knocking you will get some yes’s.

Peace is not something that you can find a way to, Peace is the way. It’s a way you have to choose, want or accept and that is not always easy because of the desire to be right.

I’ve been right so many times that I’m at a point that I wish I was not right most times. I get my facts from my experiences, if you don’t agree or know something else. I am the type that would like to know, as a student of this game called life.

I choose the bath of least resistance just like electricity does. Not because I’m scared of conflict but because I’ve not found conflict as a good way of resolving differences. So I choose peace. If I had a choice between all the riches of the world or Peace I would choose peace. Reason is your could have

it all

and still not have peace. Yet you having Peace feel like having it all. It’s up to you really, you can be hateful and get more of what you have. The other option is choosing peace and seeing things in a new light.

When my child Lilli got out of hospital after a major car crash she told my wife, what a beautiful sunset. She could have just hung on to her story and been scared to get in car to drive home. Yet instead she found the Peace she sought at a time she needed it the most.





An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer-contractor of his

Plans to leave the house-building business to live a more leisurely life with his wife

and enjoy his extended family. He would miss the paycheck each week, but he

wanted to retire. They could get by.

The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just

one more house as a personal favor. The carpenter said yes, but over time it was

easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship

and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end a dedicated career.

When the carpenter finished his work, his employer came to inspect the house.

Then he handed the front-door key to the carpenter and said, “This is your house…

my gift to you.”

The carpenter was shocked!

What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would

have done it all so differently.

So it is with us. We build our lives, a day at a time, often putting less than our best

into the building. Then, with a shock, we realize we have to live in the house we have

built. If we could do it over, we would do it much differently.

But, you cannot go back. You are the carpenter, and every day you hammer a nail,

place a board, or erect a wall. Someone once said, “Life is a do-it-yourself project.”

Your attitude, and the choices you make today, helps build the “house” you will live

in tomorrow. Therefore, build wisely!


(c) 2008 Amy Flynn. All Rights Reserved.

John Wooden’s Pyramid of Success


John Wooden’s Pyramid of Success

Your heart must be in your work. Stimulate others.
With all levels of your co-workers. Help others and see the other side.
To yourself and all those dependent upon you. Keep your self-respect.
Comes from mutual esteem, respect and devotion.
Worthwhile things come from hard work and careful planning.
Emotions under control. Delicate adjustment between mind & body. Judgment and common sense.
Be observing constantly. Be quick to spot a weakness, and correct it or use it, as the case may warrant.
Cultivate the ability to make decisions and think alone. Desire to excel.
Ability to resist temptation. Concentrate on your objective and be determined to reach your goal.
Mental–Moral– Physical. Rest, exercise and diet must be considered. Moderation. Dissipation eliminated.
A knowledge of and the ability to properly execute the fundamentals. Be prepared. Cover every detail.
An eagerness to sacrifice personal interests or glory for the welfare of all. “The team comes first.”
Just being yourself. Being at ease in any situation. Never fighting yourself.
Respect without fear. Confident. Faith in yourself knowing you are prepared.
“When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” Be at your best when your best is needed. Love of a hard battle.




>You Don’t know what you want!

>People think they know what they want, they don’t. I know this because I have asked for things in my life that I have received and I wish I would not have. Not that I have not learned from the experiences but I do wish I would have chosen differently.

The biggest thing for me right now is my house or our house. I should have never got this house and I knew it when I got it. But I believed in what we were doing more so I went along with it. After a troubled economy and no OT at work I am in a place of not wanting to keep this place because life as I know it has changed. It is time to live again and that is the type of change I am looking for.

My wife’s uncle had a million+ dollar house and the taxes were 30k. My question to you is would you be ok paying that type of money to live in a house? I would because if I can afford it I have no problem with spending money. For me it is not being able to afford it is were my issues come in. I choose life over things and I will give it up to have it all. But I know some people would not be able to because that is a lot of money just for taxes. And lets just keep it real, you can only sleep in 1 bed per night and use only 1 bathroom at a time. So what is the need for 10 rooms or 15 bathrooms?

I hear many people say I don’t like paying taxes or I pay to much in taxes. I am thinking that if I was paying say a Million bucks in taxes a year I am doing dam good for myself. And I can’t wait for the day to come because it is on it way. The reason is this, do the math if you pay a 1/3 of your gross in taxes your gross was 3 Million. Now we know that if you are making that type of money you have deductions and other things so your gross was really more then that but for numbers that is good money.

Not everyone is fit to be wealthy, I say fit because your mind must be fit as well. Don’t be fooled to think that you only have to spend the money. You have to keep it and/or make it, and that is a job in itself.

Short story of how this lesson was taught to me. My aunt is 6 month and 25 day’s older then me so we were raised like brother and sister basically.

The lesson started like this:
Grandma can I have a dollar? See I would always ask first because I had no reservation about asking for what I wanted or needed. She would reach and give me a dollar without question.
My aunt would come right behind me and ask for 5 dollars! I would be like Grandma why did you give her 5 and me only 1? You only asked for a dollar baby.

My point is just like my grandma told me “Be careful what you ask for, because you might just get it”.

Thanks Grandma I have chewed on this meat for many years and plan on it feeding me for many more.

>What is easy to Do…

>”What is easy to do, is easy not to do”

Have you ever told yourself I will do that tomorrow and not? Have you ever went on a trip and needed to get a lot of things done before and did get them done? I mean amazingly get them all done.

What I have found to be true for me is the things I think will be hard tend to come easy. While the things I see as easy seem to be the most challenging.

Why is that? Is it that I have done less prep work because I told myself it would be easy? Is it because I do so much prep for the hard stuff it seems easy?

What this has just showed me is every event if possible should be approached the same. The quote
I like is “Treat my first like my last, and my last like my first” Jay-Z.
It keeps you thirsty and hungry without being cocky. Because you realize this is my first, and it could be my last.

Some might think of a batter or pitcher that does some what looks to be weird stuff like adjust his shirt or smack his hat or spit in his hands.

While some will like to take an airplane for example. Its approach is the same whenever its landing.

What is easy to do, is easy not to do because we tell ourselves it is easy and can be easily done later. But if we keep putting of til tomorrow for what we can do today. Tomorrow will be filled with to many things too do in one day.


Be the best you

As we mourn the Great Michael Jackson it is easy to get in the place where we get stuck in all that he was able to do. The real question is “Do you” to quote a common saying from BK (Brooklyn).

I find it hard to look at someone’s life as anything more then a Great oppertunity for them to have & be what they want to be. Me myself and I need to worry about Self, not in a selfish way but. If you know how to be sucessful then I say go and be sucessful, because that is a beautiful thing for you to be, but it does not help me for you to be. Unless this is the type of sucess that we both can share in as we are not a unit of one in most cases when it comes to sucess.

My God is so powerful that he shuts doors, and some times many of them to get us to see how powerful we are. For me he is helping me to realize that no man holds my dream, it is truly between God and me!

Michael was the best him he could be and he had issues of his own that only he could handle, as we all do. We never got to see him in the ways we are now, such as with the drug addiction being the big thing now. The reason being he did not get his drugs from the streets of LA his were administered by nurses and doctors. This fact does not make it right or wrong just sad that we kind of accept this as normal. I say normal because if Mike smoked crack we would be up in arms about his use of it, but this is the legal stuff.

How can you “Be the best you”? Is it by looking at the man/women in the mirror? Is it by finding your purpose in the world and unfolding it so the world can see? Or is it playing small to serve the world? I feel we spend most of our time playing small to serve ourselves and the world. Why? Great question! We play small because we are scared of ourselves, or failures as well as our greatness. We tend to think fitting in is more important then being true to self.

If Obama & Michael have learned (sorry I had to say it) me anything it is to DO IT, and DO IT NOW! The time is here, if you are waiting for the perfect day and time to do your purpose. You just as well just give up know, because when you find the perfection the creater will be calling for you. The reason is because GOD is looking for a few good men/women.

If you notice the bible is always talking about healing the sick and the people society would consider the less then or “The Least Among Us” (Luke 9:48). If we look at michael for example poor family from GI, it can be said that his hard work and the controversal dicipline from Joe Mikes dad played a part in the success of the family. But really it was GODs will who provided for the family. If it was a person who was already rich say Donald Trump we would say it is because his Dad was rich. Even though GOD was and is present in both situations. I am talking about our preseption of how this came to pass. We look at the Jackson and say it had to be GOD and we look at The Don and say he just had a rich daddy.

Bottom line is this Do Whatever It Takes (WIT) to get to the place you are going, and don’t be affraid of what you will encounter along the way. For everything we encounter has a purpose for our purpose to grow beyond our mental limitations.

When you think of others remember these lyrics from Michael Jacksons song “WILL YOU BE THERE

Hold MeLike The River JordanAnd I Will Then Say To TheeYou Are My Friend

Carry MeLike You Are My BrotherLove Me Like A MotherWill You Be There?

WearyTell Me Will You Hold MeWhen Wrong, Will You Scold MeWhen Lost Will You Find Me?

But They Told MeA Man Should Be FaithfulAnd Walk When Not AbleAnd Fight Till The EndBut I’m Only Human

Everyone’s Taking Control Of MeSeems That The World’sGot A Role For MeI’m So ConfusedWill You Show To MeYou’ll Be There For MeAnd Care Enough To Bear Me

In Our Darkest Hour
In My Deepest Despair
Will You Still Care?

Will You Be There?

In My Trials
And My Tribulations
Through Our Doubts
And Frustrations
In My Violence
In My Turbulence
Through My Fear
And My Confessions
In My Anguish And My Pain
Through My Joy And My Sorrow
In The Promise Of Another Tomorrow
I’ll Never Let You Part
For You’re Always In My Heart.

I think this song say’s it all!

Thanks Nik for having my back